Monday, June 2, 2025

Every Now and Then ...

Every now and then I find unusual things. Sometimes it's an odd item, sometimes an odd thought. 

Sometimes it's an odd bit of archaic whatnot. 

A lot of people have heard of the Anasazi, and the Mesa Verde cliff dwellings. There are some cliff dwellings in the Garden of the Gods area west of Colorado Springs. And, of course, Chaco Canyon. 

RadioShack, when it was trying to be relevant to the (then) current shopper included an Alanis Morissette  unplugged session in Chaco Canyon. Personally, I wasn't impressed by her, but hey, even then I was an old guy.

Just lately I learned of a site in southern Colorado that seems to be an extension of the Chaco culture: Chimney Rock, Colorado (go to this website: chimneyrockco.org). It sounds like an interesting place, and in all my sixty years in the state of Colorado I'd never heard of it. (I found out about it through this channel: TheRandallCarlson, the particular link: They Built This to Catch the Moonrise)

There are new things to be learned even in a place I have resided most of my life.

I am unsure if I'll be able to visit the site this summer, but here's hoping. 

The biggest thing that stands in our way of learning new things, accepting new challenges, or taking new paths is our own short-sighted sophistication. It's that Dunning-Kreuger thing: 'I know something about something, so I know all I need to know.' 

Novice confidence, gotta love it! 

Novice confidence can be a good thing. It is what kept me on the ski slopes, learning without meaning to, that if you're skiing moguls it really does help to keep a bend in your knees. 

With my Cognitive Field Theorist brain I try to learn a little (the world-at-large, as well as the people in it, is/are my teachers, though not officially), while showing/teaching people (again, not officially, but, everyone you meet is a student) how to do the same, filling in the 'Here Be Dragons' places on personal knowledge maps. The trick is to teach something without the learner realizing they are having their mind expanded. When you hear, 'Hey, that's cool!' or similar, you know a lesson has hit home. I've always tried to teach the wonder.

I'm at a stage in my life that I'm at the other end of the D-K process: I know enough about most things to realize I really don't know a lot about anything. So I try to keep an open mind, but also I test the new knowledge as best I can before redrawing the map.

That's a Mizpah I keep with myself.

So should you. 

Yes, You Can!


Friday, May 2, 2025

Inspiration is Where You Find It

Today has been a mixed day, and since I've crossed midnight, it's tomorrow already.

My leg hurts. My water retention has gotten bad enough that my left leg is swollen and leaking like a partly popped blister. And it hurts like blazes. I need to take my water pills, and take a walk, and find a bathroom and take a walk and take my water pills and take a walk ...

And when I walk I need to protect my leg. It's not infected, but I need to keep it clean so any opportunistic bacteria doesn't get a toe-hold. I measure my hydration/dehydration by the hoarseness of my voice: if I have a voice to sing with then I need to lose water.

That is aggravating. I love to sing, and if I cannot make music that's one more joy gone. 

I have other joys, but as I have said, today (yesterday?) has been a mixed day. I ended up sleeping through most of it, which means I'm not likely to sleep well tonight. I'll put up my movie playlist, 'drop the needle' on something I like but can ignore, and wake up whenever. Usually at three or four A.M., and won't be able to go back to sleep until nearly noon, then ...

I have tried to make a point of going to bed by eleven, or even ten, and force myself up at six, if I've managed to sleep that late (see above), and start the day: light breakfast, meds, get washed and dressed, go out for a walk. Come home and do something or other for work.

That's the plan.

Stay active, stay alive. Don't sleep so much. 

The movie I woke up to was "The Ron Clark Story." 

Inspiration is where you find it. Still a mixed day. I watched the end of the movie an hour ago; it reminded me of why, ultimately, I wanted to teach.

It also reminded me, tangentally, of Simon Sinek's TED talk: "How Great Leader's Inspire Action" If you are in a position of leadership, you need to watch it. 

AS I SAY, it reminded why I wanted to teach. It also reminded me of the 1960's ads for the Peace Corps: "The Hardest Job You'll Ever Love." I never joined the Peace Corps, though my oldest brother did. He came out a bit changed. More importantly, he was alive, and didn't need to be drafted.

The why. I need a why or two. Why to not sleep the day away, but instead to do something useful and hopefully meaningful.

Remembering, per Mr. Sinek, the why is not to make money: the monetary gain is incidental to the why. 

Why? To fill a need, to serve a cause, to put a smile on a face. I've lost my specific 'why'. Why let my leg heal, why get up and move, why take those hateful water pills?

Why teach? 

Why?

Why try?

Okay. Look at 'The Butterfly Circus', a short film (not sure if it's findable any more). The message:

'The Greater the Challenge, the More Glorious the Victory!'

Okay. My leg still hurts. 

Rise above it. 

Yes, I Can.


Wednesday, April 23, 2025

The Prodigal

Back in 2023 I rewrote a Bible story, and thought that I'd posted it here.

Musta slipped my memory to do so.

I'm not going to give much preamble. Instead, I'll just drop it in here. (Originally written the tail end of June, beginning of July, 2023.)


A man had two sons. The older did everything right (you might know an older brother or sister like this), and stood to inherit his share. The younger had stars in his eyes and asked to have his share of his father’s inheritance now, so he could live life on his own terms.

You get the picture? Dad, know-it-all perfect Big Brother, and Little Brother who wants to be out from under Big Brother’s disapproving eye.

Well, Little Brother converts his cattle to cash, spends like a sailor on shore leave, buying drinks for his bar buddies, and such. Predictably, he runs out of cash, and since he has not properly learned a high-paying trade, he has to take the lowest of the low poor-paying jobs out there in order to get even a bit of something to eat (all of his bar-buddy friends having dropped him, since he’s not buying drinks for them anymore, y’see).

One day, while throwing out the trash and picking through it to find something remotely edible, he has a thought: “My dad’s hired hands live far better than this. I’ll go home and ask to be a hired hand. At least I’ll have three hots and a cot. What’s the worst that can happen?”

Little Brother hitches a ride with a trucker headed the right way (Eddie Rabbit’s “Drivin’ My Life Away!” pouring out of the truck’s radio), and gets dropped off in town. He takes the long walk toward home, and says to himself, “I’ll tell my dad that I’ve sinned against him and God both, and I’ll throw myself on his mercy and ask to be allowed to be, not a son, but a hired hand.”

But when he turns in at the lane to the ranch, his dad, who has been watching for his son’s return, jumps out of the rocker and hoofs it down to where his second son is walking, and grabs him in a big daddy hug.

Younger Son kind of pushes him away and says his bit: “Dad, I’ve sinned against you and God. I don’t deserve to be your son, but can I, may I, be a hired hand?”

“None of that talk! Let’s get you cleaned up!" replies Dad, "Looks like you have more road on you that anything else! What you been doin', sloppin' hogs?” And his father walks him up to the house and the cook (who used to dote on him when he was a boy) exclaims, “You’re back! But, my goodness! Let’s clean you up! I want to see your handsome face without all that dirt on it! When you’re done I’m gonna make you your favorite meal!”

And Dad says, “Think bigger than that, Gertie! We’re gonna have us a barbecue! Have Lonnie find us a prime beeve to kill and prep for ribs and steaks and such, and get that pit hot for the roastin’! Can you make up a gallon or so of that sauce I like? And send a runner out to where his brother is working, get him in, too!” “Goodness, yes! I’ll have it ready before that pit is hot and Lonnie is done with that beeve!”

So Little Brother gets a steaming hot bath (the first in many weeks), and when he’s toweled down a bit and shaved and other whatnot, his Dad takes him into his own room, and pulls out HIS best shirt, HIS best suit, HIS best bolo tie, HIS best watch on a chain with the family signet on the other end, and the finest set of boots He has in HIS closet.

The Little Brother looks into the mirror, and sees a changed man, and doesn’t quite believe that it’s himself.

Dad asks, “Feeling better now, Son?”

The young man stands there speechless, but with a puzzled smile on his face.

“Is this how you see me, Dad?”

“This is how I’ve always seen you, Son.”

Side by side they leave the Father’s rooms and head back to the kitchen, and out to the back yard to a trestle table full of good things, including tea, lemonade, coleslaw, Texas potato salad, and sourdough bread, with space left over for the hot food to take up station when it’s ready. Those not directly helping with setting up the party are saying things to the Little Brother like, “We’ve missed you! We’re so glad you’re back!”

About sundown the Dutch oven full of baked beans, a platter of short ribs, another of steaks, and another of shredded brisket (and of course Gert’s barbecue sauce) are brought out to the table. Father says the blessing and people line up to load up their plates. Somewhere there’s a fiddler playing ‘Saturday Waltz’ from Copeland’s ‘Rodeo’.

Just as the party is hitting its stride, Big Brother comes in, dusty from working the back forty.

“What’s all this?” he asks. Father answers, “Your brother’s back! We’re celebrating! Get cleaned up and help yourself to a plate!”

 “What do you mean, ‘my brother’s back!’? The son that took his inheritance and spent it on a riotous life? YOUR money?! And you’re throwing a party for HIM?! I’ve done EVERYTHING you’ve asked of me. You’ve never even let me take a goat from the herd so I could party with MY friends! This makes NO sense!”

His father replied, “My Son, you have been good and faithful, it’s true. Everything I have will be yours when you inherit. But your Little Brother! He was lost to the world, but now he is back home! Join me, join us, in the celebration of the fact your Little Brother was lost, but now has been found!”

But Big Brother, dignity insulted, would not join in.

The fiddler moved on to “Hoedown!” and those who’d finished their strawberry-rhubarb pie moved to the dancing area and started polka-ing and two-stepping.

And a great time was had by (almost!) all.


And there it is. If ever you wonder whether you can go back again,  

Yes, You CAN!


Monday, March 31, 2025

A Compass Points North ... (Revisiting a Revisit: Foster and Adoption)

 First, a link to an earlier entry: Revisiting Foster Care and Adoption

 Second, the videos, starting with the newest: ReMoved #3

Third, the original two: ReMoved, and Remember My Story: ReMoved Part 2

Fourth, What's it to you?

I really don't have a lot to add to the above today, and I admit to being pretty worn out. But I can say this: If you can find it in your heart to love someone who is hard to love, and give them a little something that they would not otherwise have, do it.

Just that: Do It.

Love is never wasted. Kindness is never wasted. 

If you watch ReMoved #3 you'll get the title of this blog.

Spread some Love around.

Yes, You CAN!

Tuesday, March 18, 2025

"L'il Bit's Hug Song"

 It's been forever since I've posted here.

Our grand-nephew is having his fourth birthday. Well, actually, he had it almost a month ago. Everyone was set to visit Sis-in-Law's place in the middle of the back of beyond (no problem with that, she likes her space), and have a good time. It's not the first celebration, or even the first birthday we've held for the lad in this remote location. But, winter being what it is, and in spite of it being an excessively mild winter, chose that very weekend to throw us a slushy winter storm. And considering the travel requirements, it was thought best to reschedule. 

It's been rescheduled (yay). The snow has melted, the roads are open spring is springing (almost) and it's St Paddy's Day, for the love of Mike.

For his birthday, I dug out something I'd written some time back that was hiding in my steno pad notes. I settled on steno pads as being the best thing for carrying around to write notes in, not too big, but big enough that I wasn't forever flipping pages on my shirt-pocket notepad to get what I had in mind written down. No wonder stenographers used them.

Yes, I know, everyone nowadays has a phone with voice activation to take notes with, but old habits die hard; I'd established this habit in the early nineties, and I've only had a fan-dang fancy phone for the last five or so years. 

True fact, the newest iteration of a so-called 'smart' phone I made sure it had a stylus for writing things, and two of the apps I added were sketchpad and floorplan apps. Great! 

The one problem is, the registration of where the stylus taps and what appears on the screen is an infuriating couple of millimeters off from each other. And not even Motorola lists a way to tighten up that gap. 

Life is.

BUT, that's all just stuff and nonsense. The story's the thing, after all. 

I wrote this "Hug Song" while having a breakfast at McDonalds a few years ago. I decided it was time to transfer it to the computer, and was (finally!) able to find the steno pad it was written in. I cleaned it up a bit, then tried to enlist my own bear-cub to team-read the story (she was unavailable). I read it aloud myself, and recorded it as a nighttime story for grand-nephew, and burned a CD (actually a DVD) of it and a few other things.

And finally I'll get to deliver it.

I thought you'd like to read it, so here it is.


                L'il Bit's Hug Song

The scene: LizaBeth (“Li’l Bit”) Behr’s bedroom. Cub-sized bed with a toy chest at its foot, pine cones carved into the tops of the bedposts. Li’l Bit is tucked in, holding her favorite stuffed toy, a bunny holding a carrot. The coverlet is a patch-work quilt, well-used and well-loved. The only light comes from the bedside table lamp, the ceramic base in the shapes of the three monkeys, ‘Hear no evil, See no evil, Speak no evil’. The room is cozy despite the wind making the pine trees shiver and sprinkling the window with snow. A bit of moonlight is sneaking in through the window, past the snowflake lace curtains.

Beside the bed, in a straight-backed chair, sits George Bear, story book open but forgotten on his lap.

“Papa?”

“What is it, cub?”

“I don’t want a story tonight. Can I sing a song instead?”

George smiled, “I suppose, Li’l Bit. Is it a song you learned in school?”

“No Papa. I made it up myself.”

“Those are the best kind. Go ahead.”


Li’l Bit’s Hug Song (with asides)

     (The rhythm is a slow waltz time) 


I have a family that’s nice, so nice. 

They’re warm and fuzzy not cold like ice.

And do you know what else is right?

We all hug each other all day and all night.      (“We do?”)

                                (“Yes. Now hush, Papa. This my song!”)

                                          (“Oh. Sorry.”)


Mama hugs Papa, He Hugs her right back.

Ma hugs J.R. And he makes a big fuss.               (“That doesn’t rhyme, hon.”)

                                (“It doesn’t hafta rhyme, Papa!”)

                                          (“Okay.)

But when she’s not lookin’ he’s smiling so big.

But when she’s not lookin’ he’s smiling so big.


My Mama Hugs me, an’ I feel so safe.

Nobody can hurt me when she’s right there.

Papa is big, an’ he growls a lot,         (“I do?”)  

                                (giggling “Yeah, you do.”)

But I know he loves me, ‘cause he hugs a lot, too.    (“Awww.)

 

I hug J.R. when he’s not looking.

He growls at me an’ says, “Hey Cub, what’s cookin’?”

He’s not meaning supper, that’s just his way

Of askin’, “What’s up, Cub? How is your day?”       (“Hey! That rhymed!”)

                                (“Papa!)

                                          (“Oh, sorry.”)

                                (“J.R. sometimes gives me noogies.”)

                                          (“Is that bad?”)

                                (“No, that’s Good; s’long as he doesn’t do 'em too hard.”)


Sometimes I wake up and I’m scared at night.

I hug my stuffed bunny an’ say “It’s all right,

“Listen,” I tell her, “That’s Papa’s Big Snore,            (“I snore?)

                                       (“Yes, Papa. You sound like a big tree breaking. Shh.”)

“And Mama’s snore, too. And what’s more,”

                              

“There’s that funny sound that J.R. makes … ("I’ve heard him, you’re right, it is funny.")

                                  (“Papa, HUSH!”)

                                            (“Sorry”)

“There’s that funny sound that J.R. makes,

“An’ the sound the house makes when it is asleep,

“It’s hugging us, too, to have an’ to keep.”


So I hug my bunny an’ snuggle back safe.

And smile to my bunny an’ smile to myself.

I go back to sleep with a smile on my face …

I go back to sleep with a smile on my face.

                                            (“Are you finished?”)

                                  (“Not quite, Papa.”)

                                            (“Okay.”)


There’s soooo many smiles, an’ there’s soooo many hugs.

Sooo many ways to know I am loved.

Sooo many smiles and soooo many dreams.

So many everythings are making good dreams,

So many everythings are making good dreams.

 

                                            (“… Now are you done?”)

                                    ( yawn “I think so, Papa.”)

                                            (“That’s a good song. Thank you.)

                                            (Love hugs for you, Li’l Bit. Honey Dreams.”)    


And that's that. I couldn't get my drawing eye to work (it's out of practice), so no picture to go with like "Forever Family." Such is life. I'm practicing, so maybe I'll add an illustration later. 

I'm gathering these stories to publish, hopefully sooner rather than later. Wish me luck!

IN ANY CASE, I hope you had a Happy St. Patrick's Day, and may the wind be ever at your back!

And until we meet (or meet again), may the Good Lord hold you in the palm of His Hand!

Begorra!